Powerful questions are questions that make the other stop and think. Literally. Usually, there is a “hmmm” and silence. These powerful questions are unexpected and thought provoking leading the person to look inside or into the future, discovering a new perspective. This is one of the most powerful tools in Life Coaching, which has integrated naturally in my everyday life. They can be used in your professional life, as well, as in your personal life. How you ask a question is vital to the answer you will receive. Become aware of how you ask questions and notice the impact it has.
1) Closed Questions: usually can be answered by a “yes” or “no”, you will not get very far:
As oppose to questions beginning with “what” or “how”…
2) WHY Questions: immediately, the other person feels on the defensive (even children and teens). They feel they need to explain, justify, protect themselves:
3) Implications: these are questions that imply an answer:
Your inquiring mind can ask:
4) Keep it short: Keep your questions short and to the point:
5) One question at a time: too many questions and the person cannot focus and answer properly.
“ So what did she say? Did she like your proposal? Now what? When do you meet again?”
” How did she react to your proposal?” (Silence). “Will you meeting again as a follow-up?”
Asking is a talent, like curiosity, intuition and listening. Not everyone has that gift, however, through awareness and practice, you can learn to ask powerful questions!
“As a Life Coach from Budapest, you need to make a video of yourself for your website,” some of my mentors suggested. Producing a compelling Life Coaching video is daunting. “People like to connect and they need to see who you are and how you sound before thinking of hiring some Life Coaching from Budapest.”
I postponed the idea till my Life Coaching website was done and even my web designer said, “you know what would be good on your website, a video of you speaking.” OK, got the message.
Being photographed for my website was already a hurdle, as I do not like having my picture taken at all, especially if the focus is only on me. I did not want make-up, nor a hair stylist nor a special dress code. I wanted to be me, natural and authentic. You like me how I am or you don’t, not very marketing like I know.
The thought of making a Life Coaching video, already gave me knots in my stomach and sweaty palms. I have never done this and speaking into a camera so close up appeals to me even less, let alone to know that I can be exposed to the whole world – I cherish privacy. I found a young team who guided me through the steps, advised me on my delivery, my content and my timing and I bit the bullet, completely stepping out of my comfort zone.
For my 1:07 min video, we filmed for less than 3 hours. As much as I knew my script, I had a hard time to focus, breathe, speak slowly, and simply remember my lines as I felt anxious and vulnerable. The team was great and patient and finally it was done. The final product came out well and although I may appear natural and give the impression I have done this before, it was a challenge! In fact, it was so challenging, that I decided to also add my Bloopers to my website, in a separate video, to show viewers that it was not easy, that no one is perfect and that we all make mistakes.
Most importantly, have fun with it. Here are my Bloopers and for a more serious video on my Life Coaching from Budapest, just go to my HOME page.
Like many of us, I have always multitasked, both at work and at home. The more I have to do or was given, the more adrenaline I would get. There is a saying along the lines of “if you want a task done, give it to the busiest person,” that has always been me.
During one of my Life Coaching trainings, in Oslo, I remember one of the trainers asking us, “How does multitasking look like for you? Take a moment and draw a picture of it in your head and step into that feeling.” I had an image of me juggling many balls at the same time and walking around between work and home, looking up and down and feeling a slight pain in my neck and shoulders. I could feel my heart beating strongly and eventually my arms and legs getting sore from being in the same stance the whole time. I also felt the moment I could let one ball go, soon to be replaced by another and continue. I felt tired.
Next question, “How do you WANT to picture multitasking?” Immediately, I had an imagine of calmness. I pictured myself in my own space, with sunlight, music, a comfortable chair and many different coloured baskets around me, each with its own task. I wanted to be aware of what was around me and I did not want to feel any strain on my body. The picture was becoming clearer and clearer. I felt calm.
Managing time is not about squeezing as many tasks as possible in a day. It is about making clearing space to make time for yourself, for your family/social life and your rest.
This is one of the most common issues I encounter with my clients, during our Life Coaching sessions, as they seek new tools for multitasking their challenges between work and home. In Life Coaching, clients create their own plan of action and I hold them accountable for it, which proves to be very effective and I myself learn along the way.
Thanks to Life Coaching and to some of my client’s tools, I am achieving this calmness slowly and because I want it so badly, my awareness reminds me of it. My achievements are greater, more efficient, focused and organised. I have to admit that it is not always easy. However, it does get easier everyday! Life Coaching and multitasking go hand in hand.
One thing that I can promise you, there are 24 hours in a day to do what you want. So what do you need to do to reach this fulfilment?
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