Day 7 of 2015 and probably “so far so good” with your New Year’s resolutions. You are feeling good, disciplined, and on the right track. What happens to you next Monday when you are back in your second week at work, driving children to school again and plunging into a familiar routine? How do you plan to keep this optimism going for longer than a few more days or weeks or a month? If you are Orthodox, you get a second chance next week, if you are not, maybe a good time to tweak your resolution?
Resolutions are about priorities and as we all know, we need to prioritise in order to reach our goals. Through Life Coaching, I have really learned and understood this process and especially, to notice the impact multitasking has on me and my surroundings. What happens to you when you are doing too much at once? What do you notice?
My signals are clear; sore shoulders and neck, my posture slouches, I lose eye contact with whoever I am speaking, I eat too fast, I don’t smile, my answers are brief and I become quite bitchy – not good for anyone! What are your signals?
When juggling all your balls, you need to decide which one matters the most, just like in Life Coaching. You don’t want to just check a box after a workout or after drinking 1 litre of water or after having made small talk with a colleague, so you can feel good about yourself. Or maybe you do?
Do you want a REAL long lasting change with a clear impact?
Here are my 7 suggestions for REALLY keeping a resolution:
The choice is yours. Pick just one ball and focus on it and imagine where you will be in 3 months, 6 months and 1 year from now. How will that look like and feel like?
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Ever notice when you have a good idea, a new project or an inspirational thought, that your Inner Critic, your Saboteur, wakes up and provokes you to think: ‘ I can’t run that’, ‘I’m too old’, ‘no one will be interested’, ‘I’m wasting people’s time’.” Before I knew anything about Coaching, I was unaware of the power of this Critic. Now that I am Coaching on a daily basis, I see Saboteurs affecting over 80% of my client’s plans and goals. Together we create the tools needed to get rid of these Critics.
I soon understood that preserving the status quo is part of the Saboteur’s job. The bigger our ideas and dreams, the more weight the Saboteurs will put on us. Saboteurs love to give us reasons why our thought is stupid, dangerous, ridiculous, useless, waste of time. What they are equally good at, is twisting a small part of the truth and creating a cover-up for stopping or goal or never letting us start it.
So here I am, at the age of 46, and I now know how to to recognise and deal with my own Saboteur…wish I had known about this perspective years ago!
Three Ways I Began Work with My Saboteur:
1) Awareness: how many times a day have I stopped myself from following through on an exciting project or idea? How many missed opportunities is that?
2) Asked Myself: who is this Inner Critic? What does it look like? How does it move? Does it have a smell? How can I describe this voice? I visualised it, really visualised it.
3) Named it: Naming it helped me deal with it directly – no one else needs to know!
These are just three of the several ways that can help you begin identifying your own Saboteur. Remember this…we are ALWAYS smarter, stronger, wiser and more resourceful than our Saboteurs!
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