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Monthly Resolutions

2016. 01. 03.
Anna Jankovich
Anna Jankovich
Coaching Transitions
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What Are You Waiting For?

Another year begins and “new year’s resolutions” become again a topic of conversation.  Some of us have a few in mind and some of us don’t bother because we already know it won’t last.

Change is never easy and as my grandfather used to say “things always work out for the better at the end”, whether the change was easy or difficult.

How about monthly resolutions?  Thirty days is enough to make a change in your life, if you are consistent everyday.  In fact, it may become so routine that it will be natural and part of your life.

Below are some personal development traits that I blogged about in the last year and a half, which may inspire you for your monthly resolutions.

1) Multitasking: There are 24 hours in a day to do what you want.  So what do you need to do to reach this fulfilment?  http://annajankovich.com/2015/01/lifecoaching-and-multitask/

2) Smile: You don’t need to be happy or cheerful to smile.  You can be happy and smile for others in their lives, for an article you just read, a meal you just ate, a song you just heard, a pet you just crossed, a view, a comfortable chair, a clean desk…anything! http://annajankovich.com/2015/01/smile-you-not-on-camera/

3) Slow Down: What keeps you from slowing down and what is that risk to you? http://annajankovich.com/2015/04/can-you-slow-down/

4) Asking: Asking powerful questions is a talent like curiosity, intuition and listening.  http://annajankovich.com/2015/02/asking-powerful-questions/

5) Acknowledgement: What is the impact you want to have on others? http://annajankovich.com/2015/06/the-impact-of-acknowledgement/

6) Listening: What do you need to do to be a good listener? http://annajankovich.com/2015/05/listening-prison/

7) Feedback or Feedfoward: Which do you prefer to choose? http://annajankovich.com/2015/12/feedback-or-feedforward/

8) Courage: Stepping Out Into The Unknown. http://annajankovich.com/2015/09/stepping-out-into-the-unknown/

So what are you waiting for?

Always nice to hear from followers who share their thoughts. Keep them coming at coaching@annajankovich.com and follow me for weekly inspirations on https://www.facebook.com/lifecoachannajankovich/. Wishing everyone HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Asking Powerful Questions

2015. 02. 14.
Anna Jankovich
Anna Jankovich
Coaching Transitions
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The Impact of Asking Powerful Questions

 

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Powerful questions are questions that make the other stop and think.  Literally. Usually, there is a “hmmm” and silence. These powerful questions are unexpected and thought provoking leading the person to look inside or into the future, discovering a new perspective. This is one of the most powerful tools in Life Coaching, which has integrated naturally in my everyday life.  They can be used in your professional life, as well, as in your personal life.  How you ask a question is vital to the answer you will receive. Become aware of how you ask questions and notice the impact it has.

 5  Common Mistakes when Asking: 

 

1) Closed Questions: usually can be answered by a “yes” or “no”, you will not get very far:

  • “Do you have any other options?”
  • “Is it that bad?”
  • “Did you speak with your colleague about it?”

As oppose to questions beginning with “what” or “how”…

  •  “What are some other options?”
  • “What makes the situation so negative?”
  • “How did your colleague react when you spoke with him/her?”

2)  WHY Questions:  immediately, the other person feels on the defensive (even children and teens). They feel they need to explain, justify, protect themselves:

  • “Why did you decide to hire this candidate?”
  • “Why are you resisting?”
  • “Why did you not clean your dishes?”

 Instead of…

  • “What made you decide this candidate should be hired?”
  • “ What are you resisting?”
  • “ What prevented you from doing your dishes today?”

3)  Implications: these are questions that imply an answer:

  • “Don’t you need to discuss this with your Spouse before agreeing?”
  • “Shouldn’t you share that research with the others?”
  • “Isn’t it better you stay at home with your cold?

Your inquiring mind can ask:

  •  “ I notice you value your Spouse’s opinion, would you like to ask him/her first and then we can agree.”
  • “You have always been an effective communicator. How can you engage your team in your research?”
  • “Would you feel better if you rested at home and recovered properly?”

4)  Keep it short:  Keep your questions short and to the point:

  •  “Apparently there is a new restaurant near our office that serves seafood, not sure from where, but I heard it was very good and maybe you would like to come with me and try it?”
  • “ We need to look at the different options for our ski trip and see which country we should consider together as a family and ask the children which sport they would like to do most, don’t you think?”

 Clearer…

  • ”Shall we try the new restaurant around the corner?”
  • “What sports do you want to do over the holidays and where?”

5)  One question at a time: too many questions and the person cannot focus and answer properly.

“ So what did she say? Did she like your proposal? Now what? When do you meet again?”

 Imagine…

” How did she react to your proposal?” (Silence). “Will you meeting again as a follow-up?”

Asking is a talent, like curiosity, intuition and listening.  Not everyone has that gift, however, through awareness and practice, you can learn to ask powerful questions!