Like many of us, I have always multitasked, both at work and at home. The more I have to do or was given, the more adrenaline I would get. There is a saying along the lines of “if you want a task done, give it to the busiest person,” that has always been me.
During one of my Life Coaching trainings, in Oslo, I remember one of the trainers asking us, “How does multitasking look like for you? Take a moment and draw a picture of it in your head and step into that feeling.” I had an image of me juggling many balls at the same time and walking around between work and home, looking up and down and feeling a slight pain in my neck and shoulders. I could feel my heart beating strongly and eventually my arms and legs getting sore from being in the same stance the whole time. I also felt the moment I could let one ball go, soon to be replaced by another and continue. I felt tired.
Next question, “How do you WANT to picture multitasking?” Immediately, I had an imagine of calmness. I pictured myself in my own space, with sunlight, music, a comfortable chair and many different coloured baskets around me, each with its own task. I wanted to be aware of what was around me and I did not want to feel any strain on my body. The picture was becoming clearer and clearer. I felt calm.
Managing time is not about squeezing as many tasks as possible in a day. It is about making clearing space to make time for yourself, for your family/social life and your rest.
This is one of the most common issues I encounter with my clients, during our Life Coaching sessions, as they seek new tools for multitasking their challenges between work and home. In Life Coaching, clients create their own plan of action and I hold them accountable for it, which proves to be very effective and I myself learn along the way.
Thanks to Life Coaching and to some of my client’s tools, I am achieving this calmness slowly and because I want it so badly, my awareness reminds me of it. My achievements are greater, more efficient, focused and organised. I have to admit that it is not always easy. However, it does get easier everyday! Life Coaching and multitasking go hand in hand.
One thing that I can promise you, there are 24 hours in a day to do what you want. So what do you need to do to reach this fulfilment?
Since I became a Life Coach, I have become much more aware of the power of a smile. Smiling has always been an emotion, an expression, something that usually comes naturally, without thinking. I never really gave much more thought to a smile than that.
Now, as a Life Coach, I have become conscious about smiling. What is the first thing you notice when someone smiles at you? Do you smile back? Do you ignore that smile? Do you wonder why they are smiling at you? Do you feel comfortable? How do they make you feel?
All of our lives are busy and many of us get wrapped up in our own thoughts that we simply forget to smile. Sometimes, my children will tell me that I don’t smile enough. Ouch, that hurts but they are right! At that moment, I know I am not present and I am elsewhere and that is NOT the message I want to give them. Immediately, I take a few steps back, put my coaching hat on and reconnect with myself. For a brief moment, I notice where I am, how I am and who I want to be. I take my coaching hat off and put on my parenting hat, feeling present and smile to myself first, stepping into that feeling.
A smile does not have to only be seen but it can also be heard. About 90% of my coaching clients is done through Skype, without cameras, and I can usually hear when they are smiling through the tone of their voices. Think back to your own conversations with colleagues, clients, friends or family and how do you think they reacted when you smiled?
Smiling is not only an emotion or an expression, it is also a tool that can help you, both personally and professionally. Several of my clients have challenges with colleagues and smiling has proven to be not only effective, but has brought them more fulfilment in their workplace.
You don’t need to be happy or cheerful to smile. You can be happy and smile for others in their lives, for an article you just read, a meal you just ate, a song you just heard, a pet you just crossed, a view, a comfortable chair, a clean desk…anything!
Make smiling a part of your daily life. Smile 25 times a day and feel where that impact is!
Day 7 of 2015 and probably “so far so good” with your New Year’s resolutions. You are feeling good, disciplined, and on the right track. What happens to you next Monday when you are back in your second week at work, driving children to school again and plunging into a familiar routine? How do you plan to keep this optimism going for longer than a few more days or weeks or a month? If you are Orthodox, you get a second chance next week, if you are not, maybe a good time to tweak your resolution?
Resolutions are about priorities and as we all know, we need to prioritise in order to reach our goals. Through Life Coaching, I have really learned and understood this process and especially, to notice the impact multitasking has on me and my surroundings. What happens to you when you are doing too much at once? What do you notice?
My signals are clear; sore shoulders and neck, my posture slouches, I lose eye contact with whoever I am speaking, I eat too fast, I don’t smile, my answers are brief and I become quite bitchy – not good for anyone! What are your signals?
When juggling all your balls, you need to decide which one matters the most, just like in Life Coaching. You don’t want to just check a box after a workout or after drinking 1 litre of water or after having made small talk with a colleague, so you can feel good about yourself. Or maybe you do?
Do you want a REAL long lasting change with a clear impact?
Here are my 7 suggestions for REALLY keeping a resolution:
The choice is yours. Pick just one ball and focus on it and imagine where you will be in 3 months, 6 months and 1 year from now. How will that look like and feel like?
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